The Friend Manual: How to make friends when you're bad at it

I’d like to introduce you to my Memory.

She’s grumpy and fickle. She only likes paying attention to high emotion states and shiny objects. She also like to play mean games like surfacing embarrassing memories at inopportune times.

One of her favorite past times is opening old memories and tinting them a slightly grumpier tone each time.

My Memory is sneaky.

She’s just plain negative most of the time. But not so negative that it’s noticeable. Just negative enough so that her negative seems plausible.

When she is faced with doing her job (recording and retrieving memories) she likes to make things match her outlook on life. Her quest is to make all things negative because she’s hypervigilant and not much of a risk taker. Memory doesn’t like to do new things, it makes her job harder.

Memory is always like “see I told you so” even when memory is wrong. But because she controls access to all the memories, she can prove it. “Just look,” memory says, “here’s all the reasons I was right.”

But it’s really hard to see that memory is doing this because Memory is always hiding and pretending that she’s not doing anything. Memory is accurate. Memory is right. Memory is infallible.

But, I’m tired of having Memory having too much control, so I have to figure out a way to interact with her.

How do I fix how my memory works?

And this is where I do a complete 180 and start talking the event diagram and memory recall and about data and computers….in the next post because it’s too confusing otherwise.