The Friend Manual: How to make friends when you're bad at it

All my blog posts…

  • Friendship in a whirlwind

    I am so stressed about the world – Tariffs for all! Lock them up! Shock and awe!And my job, which was straightforward a few weeks ago has been infected by the insanity of 2025 – a new year! a new you! a new build ourcompetitive advantage yesterday STAT… And my life, which was stripped down beforenow has restrictions on all Read more

  • Friendly places

    I’ve been thinking about whether you can make friends with a place. If I keep going to a place, and I enjoy it, do I become its friend? I’ve got friend energy and it needs to go somewhere or it’ll fester (she says fester and rot in meg ryan’s French Kiss voice in her head) Read more

  • Chasing Patterns

    I spent years painting intricate patterns trying to explain the way I heard cicadas speaking to each other, or, singing really. Because I heard them as a whole. Together they expanded a net through the trees, they filled the forest. I walked back and forth beneath the trees, learned how to turn them on and Read more

  • Voice in friendship

    Voice? Voice? What’s this voice? I’m not talking about physical voice, but voice in the way we speak about it in writing. In writing, voice is the thing that makes your writing specifically you. The way your soul and brain mixes with words and grammar to create a fingerprint. All the little clues and glitter Read more

  • How to make friends with signal detection theory – part II

    How to make friends with signal detection theory – part II

    See part I here.  I’ve been thinking about isomorphisms a lot (because it’s one of my favorite topics) and this blog is chock full of my isomorphisms that I use to understand social interactions coupled with human body limitations. And I was wondering if creating multiple isomorphic examples for a complicated concept might make it Read more

  • How to make friends with Signal Detection Theory

    There’s a concept I came across in neuroergonomics called “signal detection theory” which helps to analyze decision-making in the presence of uncertainty. And what is socializing if not that? The basic idea is that you have things that are signals and based on the qualities of the signal, the qualities of the person detecting the Read more