The Friend Manual: How to make friends when you're bad at it

Category: Loneliness

• Loneliness Messy Feelings

  The Problem of Chairs

  You can’t askwhy didn’t you choose meand get an answer that will fix that feeling. In friendship, there are things you can’t say. Like I knowI am on your B list or maybe not even Bmay be on the if onlythere’s an emergency liketoo many chairs. Those lists don’t existwe say, but it’s…

  February 17, 2025
• Drawings Loneliness Self-Sabotage

  How to make friends when you’re bad at leaving the house…

  Sometimes I get frustrated at being lonely…and then I realize I haven’t contacted anyone or made plans in weeks. Maybe I’ll do it tomorrow.

  February 9, 2023
• Changing by degrees Emotional Radar Graphs Graphs & Charts Loneliness

  Radar graphs to understand loneliness and discontent – part 2

  This is a continuation from part 1. I’ve broken out this section to talk separately about when I compare myself to different socialization models, and why that can induce false loneliness. Each of the “fights” below indicate logical fallacies that have led me to outsized loneliness and discontent. Me vs.…

  September 11, 2022