The Friend Manual: How to make friends when you're bad at it

Category: Self-Sabotage

• Body-Based Stuff (Autonomic, Etc.) Brain-Based Stuff (e.g., Cognition) Confusion Drawings Experiments Self-Sabotage Social Skills

  Hi! Can I say something petty?

  

  Every once in a while I just need to say something awful or stupid or exciting or just a jumbled mass of words, paragraphs, images, monologues, or petty grievances. Sometimes the content just a series of successive events that I can’t quite close out. And other times, maybe something gets…

  December 27, 2025
• Drawings Loneliness Self-Sabotage

  How to make friends when you’re bad at leaving the house…

  Sometimes I get frustrated at being lonely…and then I realize I haven’t contacted anyone or made plans in weeks. Maybe I’ll do it tomorrow.

  February 9, 2023
• Brain-Based Stuff (e.g., Cognition) Changing by degrees Drawings Self-Sabotage

  Changing by Degrees – Part 1: binary and restricted thinking

  In the last month, when writing about loneliness, I kept coming upon this idea of changing by degrees – changing small things and making tweaks instead of making sweeping pronouncements or big changes. For someone who struggles with moderation, changing life by degrees is an alien, but probably life-changing idea.…

  September 26, 2022