The Friend Manual: How to make friends when you're bad at it

Category: Social Skills

• Social Skills

  The Glorious Pain of Ending a Conversation – Part 2

  

  Here’s the second part of the ending the conversation series, see part 1 here. First, let’s talk about this darling image above, the Exit Gambit Decision Matrix. This decision matrix shows all the ways two people can choose to respond to an exit gambit. Person 1 (P1) can say yes…

  June 9, 2023
• Social Skills

  The Glorious Pain of Ending a Conversation – Part 1

  I’ve been thinking about the complicated dance of reciprocity that’s required to off ramp out of a conversation. We’ve all been in that painful conversation that we can’t seem to end. So, here’s my explanation of why this happens. These are the required steps to end a conversation between person…

  June 1, 2023
• Experiments Hosting Events Real life stories / anecdotes Social Skills

  How to host a party when you’re bad at it

  Birthdays are complicated for me. In general, I don’t like sustained attention. It makes me want to go crawl in one of those caves in France where they age fancy cheeses and never come out. But, you get me around my birthday and suddenly I want attention. This confidence magically…

  January 11, 2023
• Podcast Real life stories / anecdotes Social Skills

  001 – How to make friends when you’re bad at it – Rob might be too nice?

  I recorded a podcast! My first! And now it’s here. I’ve invited my friend Rob to talk about friends, curmudgeons, how people who leave events early are heroes, and knockabout friends. Stick around as we stumble upon some surprisingly successful metaphors. Questions include: This is something I am doing on…

  September 8, 2022