The Friend Manual: How to make friends when you're bad at it

All my blog posts…

  • Event post-mortem: the meetup that wasn’t

    Also known as: the Saturday in which I ignore everything that I’ve written in this blog and try to force myself to do exactly the wrong thing and then feel bad about it…for the 8,000th time. For your entertainment, I have put my my behavioral missteps and thought errors in all caps. So, what happened?… Read more

  • Experience maps 3: experience through time

    So, the next thing to look at with the experience map is to view it through time. So, we took the map, and then separated it into bands. Next, we take those bands and on each level we show the total time spent at that number or higher. So, if I am looking at the… Read more

  • Experience maps 2: Where we add color to the graphic!

    *Continuing from the previous post So, now that we’ve seen that a single experience may be extremely variable rather than binary (fun/not-fun), we’ll expand on this. I’ve made this curve based on what could happen for me when I do something social. You can see that I get stressed leading up to the event –… Read more

  • Introducing…the experience map!

    Here is a new concept for the next few posts: the experience map. Ta da! Most of the time people think about events in the binary: Did you have fun? Yes or No But, most experiences go more like this: Some parts are good and some parts are bad. And whether or not you had… Read more

  • How to make friends when you’re bad at leaving the house…

    Sometimes I get frustrated at being lonely…and then I realize I haven’t contacted anyone or made plans in weeks. Maybe I’ll do it tomorrow. Read more

  • Diagram of an event – Recall part 4: memory recall

    And here’s where we get to the ‘why’ of all these memory posts. And also, this post may indicate the depths of my neuroticism, but to be fair, this whole blog is like this. What is memory recall? Memory recall is the surfacing of memories in response to stimuli. Recall can be subconscious or intentional… Read more