The Friend Manual: How to make friends when you're bad at it

All my blog posts…

  • How to host a party when you’re bad at it

    Birthdays are complicated for me. In general, I don’t like sustained attention. It makes me want to go crawl in one of those caves in France where they age fancy cheeses and never come out. But, you get me around my birthday and suddenly I want attention. This confidence magically dissipates at about 8pm on… Read more

  • Welcome to the introvert hermit cave & the power of metaphor

    I think that using easily recognizable metaphors may be an integral part of my ability to make friends. At the end of this 2022, I was completely burnt out. I had used all my positivity and friendliness and energy that I had and was just grumpy and tired and unable to hold a conversation. Somewhere… Read more

  • Scheduled break

    Hi y’all, I’m taking a scheduled break to refill the creative coffers. 2022 has been like this: Yikes. So, I’m just gonna see how many naps I can rack up, how many dumb books I can re-read, and if I can watch everything that was ever made for tv, while simultaneously not destroying my existing… Read more

  • Diagram of an event – Recall part 3: memory encoding & drift

    Ok, so we’ve already talked about how memory can be inaccurate, and memory metadata. The next step is to talk about how memory metadata is saved (encoding) and then we can talk about recall – which was the whole point of this exercise. What is memory encoding? What I am calling “memory encoding” is the… Read more

  • My memory is an ass

    I’d like to introduce you to my Memory. She’s grumpy and fickle. She only likes paying attention to high emotion states and shiny objects. She also like to play mean games like surfacing embarrassing memories at inopportune times. One of her favorite past times is opening old memories and tinting them a slightly grumpier tone… Read more

  • Diagram of an event – Recall part 2: memory metadata

    As we learned in the previous post, my Memory is an ass. So, I had to come up with a way to interact with my memory in order to make it more neutral instead of always listing towards the negative. My approach was to take what I know about taxonomy and metadata to experiment with… Read more