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  • Scheduled break

    Hi y’all, I’m taking a scheduled break to refill the creative coffers. 2022 has been like this: Yikes. So, I’m just gonna see how many naps I can rack up, how many dumb books I can re-read, and if I can watch everything that was ever made for tv, while simultaneously not destroying my existing Read more

  • Diagram of an event – Recall part 3: memory encoding & drift

    Ok, so we’ve already talked about how memory can be inaccurate, and memory metadata. The next step is to talk about how memory metadata is saved (encoding) and then we can talk about recall – which was the whole point of this exercise. What is memory encoding? What I am calling “memory encoding” is the Read more

  • My memory is an ass

    I’d like to introduce you to my Memory. She’s grumpy and fickle. She only likes paying attention to high emotion states and shiny objects. She also like to play mean games like surfacing embarrassing memories at inopportune times. One of her favorite past times is opening old memories and tinting them a slightly grumpier tone Read more

  • Diagram of an event – Recall part 2: memory metadata

    As we learned in the previous post, my Memory is an ass. So, I had to come up with a way to interact with my memory in order to make it more neutral instead of always listing towards the negative. My approach was to take what I know about taxonomy and metadata to experiment with Read more

  • Stuck

    So….I’m having this problem. It’s like this. The world is hard. Mental health is hard. Working full time is hard. And my job takes most of the energy I have in a week, so I spend the weeknights and weekends recovering. The last few years have felt like I’ve been sprinting a marathon. When life Read more

  • Diagram of an event – Recall part 1: memory accuracy

    This is the first of a series of posts about memory. I’ve been having trouble sorting this all out and went down about 800 rabbit holes, so this is just a first stab at the memory recall step of the event stages, see the diagram of an event post for a recap. A big ol’ Read more