Category: Event Stages
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Initiation – Types of asks
I’m going to take a little winding detour to talk about the different types of asks (the first overture said/sent to someone before negotiating the details). Each type of ask means something slightly different. It can be useful to think about what types of asks are best to use in…
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Diagram of an event – Initiation
I’m finally back to the first stage of the diagram of an event…initiation! What is an “Initiation”? Initiation in this context is when one person asks another person to do something and the request details are explicitly accepted by all parties. It sounds so simple, right? Well, there’s nothing that’s…
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Events are hard
I made a video! I’m not sure if this is a better format than blog? This is a reformat of some stuff from previous posts. Don’t worry, it’s only 4 minutes. If you have opinions, leave a comment below.
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Why do you keep talking about events?
Someone asked me why I keep chattering on about events in these posts. It’s a great question! It’s because I’m looking at friendship from a behavioral perspective first. In order to make and keep friends, there has to be reciprocal interactions that both people experience. There have been times when…
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Diagram of an event – Recall part 2: memory metadata
As we learned in the previous post, my Memory is an ass. So, I had to come up with a way to interact with my memory in order to make it more neutral instead of always listing towards the negative. My approach was to take what I know about taxonomy…
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Event post-mortems
This is an ongoing experiment for me, and I think it helps to narrow down the things that can be tweaked to help me do more behaviors that lead to friendship (I’m a big fan of looking at all this through a behavioral lens). This is an extension of two…
The Friend Manual: How to make friends when you're bad at it 